Let it go?

'Let it go'

Now that is one phrase that you and I hear almost everyday. If you fail an exam, 'let it go.' If your friend hurt you, 'let it go.' If someone made you angry, 'let it go.' If he or she doesn't like you but likes your best friend, 'let it go.' If he or she just NEVER thought of you that way, 'let it go.' If you didn't get accepted to a college of your choice, 'let it go.'

So what exactly is this 'let it go' deal? You tell me that I should 'let it go', yet you don't tell me how to let it go. You don't tell what to let go of. You don't tell me how much I should 'let go'. Well, my friend I think I will contribute my 2 cents (or paisa - depending on your country). I have an opinion or two about this deal and I thought I will sit here and take up some time writing it rather than studying (which clearly should be my priority at the moment). Apparently two nights before an exam and a quiz happened to be the day that I decided to take off from doing any school work. I am the ideal student. I certainly do deserve a tirade for slacking off. Anyway, back to the topic.

What it doesn't mean.
'Let it go' doesn't mean that you should forget about the situation or the person. It doesn't mean that you should ignore the feelings. It doesn't mean that you should suppress your emotions toward the particular situation.

What it does mean.
'Let it go' means that you should embrace the situation. What does it mean? It means that you should take to heart what you learned from it. Meaning: Think of it as a learning experience and take it with a pinch of salt. Cherish the positive memories that you gained from it. For example, if you are grieving over a guy (it definitely is extremely painful and if you are not careful, your self-confidence will be affected) you need to stop and think 'is my crying going to bring him back into my life?' No it isn't. Is he crying over you? Not a chance. Should you start hating him for hurting you? Most definitely not. What should you do? You should embrace the positive memories from your relationship. In your heart, you should hold everything positive and negative that you learned from that relationship so that you can apply that to your future relationships (in friendships, familial relationships, or romantic relationships). Never hold a grudge. Holding a grudge means that you still haven't moved on. Move on. Let it go. You are worth more than what you really give yourself credit for. You are a better person. Acknowledge that and act up on it accordingly. Dream of a better tomorrow - let it go. Smile and think positive - let it go.

My friend, life is too short for you to worry about anything and everything. If you think that you know what to do in a situation, do what you think is best. If you are utterly lost, acknowledge the issue at hand and leave it to destiny. If you are a firm believer, leave it to God. At the end, everything works out. The cosmic balance will and must be maintained. The Yin and the Yang. The good must balance the evil. Similarly, in your life no matter how severe things get, you can await the blessings. They'll come along, even if they tend to be a bit tardy.

Let's say that you are at the store buying apples. It is your first time shopping for apples. You are utterly lost as to which ones to pick. You pick some random ones. When you get home, some are spoiled and not edible (you didn't really notice it at the store) while some where delicious. As you looked through the spoiled ones, you saw a pattern for all of them. They might have had a hole in them or a dent or whatever. The next time you go shopping, you will avoid those. Then again, you probably won't get all good ones this time as well. But you might end up with more good ones than bad ones. As time goes by, you will be an expert in picking the right apples. The apples are the people in your lives. Even though you picked the wrong apples, you still learned something from them right? You learned not to pick those the next time. You learned to 'appreciate' the good apples because they made your money worth it. Should you punish yourself for picking the rotten apples? Of course not. What is done is done. You can't change the past. LET IT GO. Focus on the present.

Good day to you. :D