Monday, December 8, 2008

That darn thing.....

Have you ever had something so delicious to eat, but had its residue left between your teeth? It's usually like that tiny itty bitty strand of chicken or beef that usually finds a nice little spot to hide in between your molars. Annoying, isn't it? So, if you are waiting for dessert...you try your best to get that thing out of your teeth so that I can enjoy the oh-so-awaited (supposedly) delicious food. You may excuse yourself to go to the restroom to get rid of the little bastard and may not have much luck with it. You try your best and it's still there...flipping you off. As though, it has established its throne there. Prayers, bribes, etc. do not work, unfortunately.

Then the dessert comes.

Of course, you are obviously annoyed by that thing between your teeth. You want to enjoy your dessert. But CAN'T. Why not? Because it is bothering you. You curse the auntie who made that delicious tandoori chicken. It does not matter to you that the chicken WAS DELICIOUS. What matters IS the residue that's left. So..now...you hate the chicken that you had and can't make your poor soul to enjoy the dessert regardless of the savor that everyone's talking about.

So NOW..let me work my creative mind here...and compare the above 'ejjaamble' to relationships. Ah..you people knew that was coming, didn't you? No? OK! Read along, then!

You may be going through a bitter time. A good time may have come to a halt. Yet, the emotional baggage may still bother you. When someone else comes along, you may find it difficult to let go of the past. You may still be bitter, annoyed, or even irritated at that baggage or even the past.

Do understand this. When you were relishing that tandoori chicken, you enjoyed it. You loved it and you even complemented the auntie, the cook. It was only after it was over that you started having the negative thoughts. It's the same with a relationship. When you were in that particular relationship, you enjoyed it to the fullest. You can't look back, once it's over, and start cursing the persons that were involved in there. It is very hypocritical. Cherish the good times. Know that all good times do come to an end. Learn something from your past. You can thank your past for molding today's you. The experience, the people, the locations, etc. all came together to make you...YOU!

Don't let your past (mis)guide you. That strand of chicken can be removed by a toothbrush or a floss. You might have to pick at it for a while before it decides to come out. But it will. Same with any emotional burden in your life. Give it time. Be around good company. Be positive. There is always that good thing waiting for you...ready to knock on your door. Or may be already knocking. You may not be hearing it because you are too busy talking aloud and cursing.

At times, it takes someone very special to show you how much you are worth.

Don't ever sell yourself short. :D

Ciao!

6 comments:

The Maverick Blog said...

Merin, you can give it a shot for an "Ask Merin" column for Indian news papers :D.. :P.. Hhehe..


But seriously, a very good anology :D

Absconding said...

:D I really should give it a shot! :D Haha!! You are too kind, my dear! :D

And Thank you!! :D

m said...

This was really a wonderful post Merin! I could not have imagined this way of bringing the message....and it was a nice message indeed....but i can imagine a halo behind ur head now!

Absconding said...

:D Thanks Ela dearest! :D A halo behind my head or on my head? If they are indeed behind my head...it may be dangling by my horns! :D

I really appreciate what you said! Thank you!!

It's people like you guys that makes me want to write more!!

*HUGS*

N.V.Prashanth said...

What an idea madam ji!

Absconding said...

Aww! Thanks, Prashanth ji! :D