Let it go?

'Let it go'

Now that is one phrase that you and I hear almost everyday. If you fail an exam, 'let it go.' If your friend hurt you, 'let it go.' If someone made you angry, 'let it go.' If he or she doesn't like you but likes your best friend, 'let it go.' If he or she just NEVER thought of you that way, 'let it go.' If you didn't get accepted to a college of your choice, 'let it go.'

So what exactly is this 'let it go' deal? You tell me that I should 'let it go', yet you don't tell me how to let it go. You don't tell what to let go of. You don't tell me how much I should 'let go'. Well, my friend I think I will contribute my 2 cents (or paisa - depending on your country). I have an opinion or two about this deal and I thought I will sit here and take up some time writing it rather than studying (which clearly should be my priority at the moment). Apparently two nights before an exam and a quiz happened to be the day that I decided to take off from doing any school work. I am the ideal student. I certainly do deserve a tirade for slacking off. Anyway, back to the topic.

What it doesn't mean.
'Let it go' doesn't mean that you should forget about the situation or the person. It doesn't mean that you should ignore the feelings. It doesn't mean that you should suppress your emotions toward the particular situation.

What it does mean.
'Let it go' means that you should embrace the situation. What does it mean? It means that you should take to heart what you learned from it. Meaning: Think of it as a learning experience and take it with a pinch of salt. Cherish the positive memories that you gained from it. For example, if you are grieving over a guy (it definitely is extremely painful and if you are not careful, your self-confidence will be affected) you need to stop and think 'is my crying going to bring him back into my life?' No it isn't. Is he crying over you? Not a chance. Should you start hating him for hurting you? Most definitely not. What should you do? You should embrace the positive memories from your relationship. In your heart, you should hold everything positive and negative that you learned from that relationship so that you can apply that to your future relationships (in friendships, familial relationships, or romantic relationships). Never hold a grudge. Holding a grudge means that you still haven't moved on. Move on. Let it go. You are worth more than what you really give yourself credit for. You are a better person. Acknowledge that and act up on it accordingly. Dream of a better tomorrow - let it go. Smile and think positive - let it go.

My friend, life is too short for you to worry about anything and everything. If you think that you know what to do in a situation, do what you think is best. If you are utterly lost, acknowledge the issue at hand and leave it to destiny. If you are a firm believer, leave it to God. At the end, everything works out. The cosmic balance will and must be maintained. The Yin and the Yang. The good must balance the evil. Similarly, in your life no matter how severe things get, you can await the blessings. They'll come along, even if they tend to be a bit tardy.

Let's say that you are at the store buying apples. It is your first time shopping for apples. You are utterly lost as to which ones to pick. You pick some random ones. When you get home, some are spoiled and not edible (you didn't really notice it at the store) while some where delicious. As you looked through the spoiled ones, you saw a pattern for all of them. They might have had a hole in them or a dent or whatever. The next time you go shopping, you will avoid those. Then again, you probably won't get all good ones this time as well. But you might end up with more good ones than bad ones. As time goes by, you will be an expert in picking the right apples. The apples are the people in your lives. Even though you picked the wrong apples, you still learned something from them right? You learned not to pick those the next time. You learned to 'appreciate' the good apples because they made your money worth it. Should you punish yourself for picking the rotten apples? Of course not. What is done is done. You can't change the past. LET IT GO. Focus on the present.

Good day to you. :D

I love me

I have been sitting here staring at the tiny laptop screen contemplating. Apparently, I hoped for answers to fly out of the screen and enter my head and give me eternal happiness. Since that doesn’t seem to happen, I think I’ll start writing and solutions might just come to me. I feel as though writing down my thoughts helps me to organize them. Once I have organized the thoughts, I can think clearly. I am such a random person that I have quite a few thoughts orbiting my head at one point in time. I know that sounds weird, but it is true. People who speak to me on a daily basis know that and I am sure that it must have taken them couple of weeks to either go with the flow or just ignore my occasional blurts.

Quite frankly, I don’t know what I want to write about. More like I don’t know where to start. Well..actually..I think I have something.

I shall write about how insanely weird I am.

• I love food. I have never discriminated or said ‘no’ to a cuisine.
• I am apathetic about way too many issues and I often wonder why.
• I am (for the most part) unable to verbally express my feelings.
• I am extremely observant of human behaviors.
• I can figure out (most) people very easily. I can observe a person for 5 minutes and can be quite accurate about his or her personality (if he or she is not ‘acting’ or ‘putting on a façade’).
• I prefer hanging out with two..maximum three..friends.
• I prefer not to have many mutual friends.
• You can try your best, but I will not have a competitive attitude.
• I have very few friends.
• I have nothing-to-no interest in shopping. It bores me.
• I don’t wear make up.
• I have no interest in cars, electronic gadgets, or flowers.
• My room reflects my mood. Most of the time it (my mind and my room) is disorderly.
• I have lost interest in watching TV.
• I am extremely stingy about compliments. When I do compliment, it comes from the bottom of my heart.
• I am extremely stingy about saying nice things about you TO YOU. When I do say it, I really do mean it.
• I have to overcome my ego (trust me, it takes a LOT out of me) to apologize. When I do apologize, I do mean it.
• I am not possessive.
• When I am in a bad mood, I prefer to be alone.
• My cell phone serves me two purposes- to call and to receive calls. I don't text message. I don't instant message. I don't browse.
  
• I don’t like it when people tell me to do something even though it might be the right thing to do.
• I don’t like it when people TELL ME how I feel.
• It is quite easy to impress me. Sadly, very few people have accomplished that.
• Talk to me and you’ll be surprised by how much you can relate to me.
• I believe that everyone is inherently good.
• I am extremely curious and my curiosity has taken me on quite some rides.
• I learn best if I write things down.
• I can remember the most random of details.
• My self-control and I have a love hate relationship.
• I don’t care much about money. I mean, I hate the fact that I am broke. But having money really doesn’t excite me in any fashion. Even if I have just 20 bucks, I am overwhelmed by it.
• Curse me. Spread rumors about me. But never disrespect me. Never insult me.
• I don’t care (really, I don’t give a damn) about what people think about me.
• I am a philanthropist who will go out of her way to help you.
• I rarely admit my feelings.
• I prefer looking decent over ‘looking pretty hot and tempting.’
• You might think that you know me, but you can be wrong.
• I remain a mystery to everyone around me.
• I can make you feel great about yourself.

I love me.

I'm bored and this seemed entertaining.

How long have you been alive?
A very short amount of time- 22 years

What did your parents name you?
A name that they never call me by

Do you like your name?
What's there not to like? I've heard so many versions of it that I am in a dilemma as to which one my favorite is. There really are a few good ones.

What's your favorite song right now?
Suttum Vizhi from Ghajini. Love the beats.

Which color from the spectrum is your favorite?
You're looking at it.

Random Questions

Do you like your weight?
It's a nice number. I don't think that I should be associated with it.

Do you think that too much pressure has been put on weight in the media?
No. I don't think that anyone notices the skinny women in their size 0 jeans and size D chest. I don't think that anyone notices the overwhelming 'burn fat' exercises or the 'get fit' exercises or the 'lose 6 inches in a day' exercises. Please!

Do you know that tune to the Peanut Butter Jelly song?
Sadly, yes.

Have you ever...

sang on stage?
Yeah. Intimidating stuff.

danced in the rain?
Yes. Wished for someone else to dance with me as well. It'll happen one day.

been to the ocean?
Emm...yeah I believe so.

gone to a concert?
No. It is definitely in the 'To Do' list.

waited by the phone all day for a call that never came?
Unfortunately, yeah. I also would wake up every few hours in the middle of the night to check the phone. Yeah. I'm pathetic. At the end of the day, I just want to slap myself for being desperate. Ah...life!!

been kissed?
Not the way that I've wanted to be kissed. The answer is yes.

fallen in love with a friend of the opposite sex?
No. Never been in love. But definitely have been attracted.

...of the same sex?
When there are so many guys around? I pray that I never have to. At times, I do wonder though. But no..never about a friend!

cursed someone out?
I believe so.

gotten in a fight?
Oh yeah. Well, not fist fight.

fallen off your roof?
I've had a dream like that. But no. Never happened.

Your Opinion:

Love at first sight?
'Love' has such a vast and deep meaning that I can't comprehend the idea of FALLING IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. I don't believe in it.

Gay marriage?
Two people love each other. They want to spend their lives together. WHY NOT?

Religion?
If it helps you to be a better person, be religious. If it brings out the devil in you, abandon it.

Sex before marriage?
If you feel that you must, go right ahead. Be ready to face the repercussions. Once you do it, you can't UNDO it.

The current president?
There have been worse. There have been better ones.

Wars?
Don't have an opinion.

Dropping out?
Know what you are getting yourself into.

Guys that wear eyeliner?
It's the guy who's wearing it. If he's not forcing me to poke his eyes or feel his eye liner, why the heck should I even bother?


Beliefs:

Angels?
Exist. My friends are certainly angels.

Demons?
Exist. Certain acts that I've witnessed could only be done by demons.

Heaven/Hell?
Applies to the life on earth.

Women's rights?
Men doesn't have any rights? It's called HUMAN RIGHTS. As a human, you should be able to exercise your rights - whether you are a man or a woman.
I'm not a feminist.

Gay rights?
They're humans.

African-American rights?
Why shouldn't they?

The afterlife?
It seems intriguing...since we're all going to heaven.

Isn't it terrible...

that children get beaten every day?
It is terrible. There will always be those folks who get pleasure from others' misery. There will always be those who commit inhumane acts. It is terrible..but it happens. You can't put an end to it...it hurts me to say it.

that people have to fight in order to have peace?
FIGHT is a relative term. It's subjective!!!

that the legal system doesn't actually care about you?
'For the people', right? It's about doing what's best for me...don't need to associate any EMOTIONS with it.

that people are so superficial?
Many people are superficial. I guarantee you that all of us are not like that. There is still some goodness left in this world.

Lastly...finish the sentence:

When I wake up,
I check my phone call log.

No matter what, I still believe
that everything will work out and be fine at the end.

If you want me to like you, do this:
be yourself. I like genuine people.

I wish
to cause a ripple/change in this world.

I like to
know what is going on in his mind.

Being in the rain makes me want to
get married as soon as possible so I can dance in the rain with him.

I am amazed by
my investigative skills

Sometimes I
wonder why I am so desperate.

I hope to always be with
integrity and patience.

I love
my randomness.

This just made my day..

I want to meet the person who wrote this. :D

Why Can't I Own a Canadian?

October 2002

Dr. Laura Schlessinger is a radio personality who dispenses advice to people who call in to her radio show. Recently, she said that, as an observant Orthodox Jew, homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22 and cannot be condoned under any circumstance. The following is an open letter to Dr. Laura penned by a east coast resident, which was posted on the Internet. It's funny, as well as informative:

Dear Dr. Laura:

Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God's Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate. I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some of the other specific laws and how to follow them:

When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord - Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness - Lev.15:19- 24. The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.

Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians?

I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?

A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination - Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this?

Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?

Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?

I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev. 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? - Lev.24:10-16. Couldn't we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)

I know you have studied these things extensively, so I am confident you can help. Thank you again for reminding us that God's word is eternal and unchanging.

Your devoted fan,
Jim