Tuesday, April 29, 2008

I've been tagged....for the first time...:D

1) Last movie you saw in a theatre?
Oh man. I can't remember the last time that I'd watched a movie on TV. I think that the movie that I'd watched on theater was Enchanted.

2) What book are you reading?
I'm reading many (because I'm forced to); but nothing that is fun. I shall start on my leisure reading in exactly a week.

3) Favorite board game?
None.

4) Favorite magazine?
I don't read magazines.

5) Favorite smells?
Don't have an affinity toward a particular smell. Well..ACTUALLY..now that I think about it... I believe I'm quite fond of the 'AXE' deodorant. ;)... mesmerizing!! ;)

6) Favorite thing to do in weekend?
I would LOVE to walk around aimlessly and spend my entire day at the theaters. But yeah.. never happens.

7) Worst feeling in the world?
Helplessness.

8)What is the first thing you think of when u wakeup?
I pray/wish that no one called when I was sleeping. I have this habit of picking up the calls and rambling when people call in the middle of the night. The next day, I'm told that I said some gruesome things. Hey...you took the risk!!

9) Favorite fast food place?
Burger King (Yeah...I know...but I love their whopper), Wendy's, SUBWAY (is that even considered FAST FOOD?)!!!

10) Future child’s name?
Haven't thought much into the future. Emm...Joshua is a nice name!

11) Finish this statement --- 'If I had a lot of money'
I wouldn't know what to do with it.

12) Do you drive fast?
:D Faster than any other girl that you know.

13) Do you sleep with a stuffed animal?
My stuffed animals have been abducted.

14) Storms -- Cool or Scary?
Scrool. Nah. It's cool. I love the feeling that I get when it gets dark and gloomy.

15) What was your first car?
Toyota Corolla

16) Favorite drink?
Water - really..that's all I drink.

17) Finish this statement --- If i had the time i would
....sleep!

18) Do you eat the stems on broccoli?
YES I do!

19) If you could dye your hair any other color, what would be your choice?
Auburn with dark brown highlights (However that looks!!)

20) Name all the different cities/towns you have lived in?
(These are the places that I've stayed for more than one night :D)
1. Pathanapuram, Kerala, India
2. Dubai, Dubai
3. Dallas, Texas, United States
4. Atlanta, Georgia, United States
5. Udagamandalam, Tamil Nadu, India

21) Favorite sports to watch?
Cricket

22) One information about the person who sent this to you?
I don't know why..but random people think that we are similar! :D

23) What’s under your bed?
Nothing..probably random books or papers!

24) Would you like to be born as yourself again?
I wouldn't mind. I like me. I LOVE me.

25) Morning person or night owl?
Varies..depending on the day and the mood.

26) Over easy or sunny side up?
Have no preference when it comes to food.

27) Favorite place to relax?
Emmm....my living room?

28) Favorite pie?
Emm....apple, may be!

29) Favorite ice cream flavor?
Oh please don't ask me to pick!!

30) Of all the people you have tagged, who is the most likely to respond first?
I'm not tagging anyone!! :D

Sunday, April 27, 2008

Me - the anomaly

Ever since they can think straight, almost every girl starts fantasizing about her future: her husband (prince), her children (about 10-20 of them), her house (a castle), and so on. Once she reaches puberty, the expectations on the husband will skyrocket, the number of children that she wants will decrease, and the expectation on the house stays the same. Once she is past her teenage years, at one point or another, she will realize that there is no prince, there is no perfect guy, or that she is doomed to be alone. Still the thought of having a family is there. She has dreams about the perfect family which she wishes and hopes to have one day. No matter how much she seems to be bitter and devastated, she never gives up her dream. There's always that hope. There's always that 'spark'! I read this in a book: 'Whenever a guy sees a girl, he is thinking about a potential sex partner. Whenever a girl sees a guy, she is thinking about a potential husband." I think that it is true for the most part.

Growing up, I didn't have many girl friends. I started having tuition classes when I was in Upper KinderGarten. My tuition class consisted of me, and three other boys. We used to go to the class (which was taught by a neighbor) every day after school. I think we even had classes on weekends. Regardless, I grew up with these guys. As we got older, these guys became my brother's friends as well. There were no girls my age in the vicinity of my house. I remember having one doll when I was around a year old, I think that my mom gave it to a beggar when I was 3 or something. I wasn't a demanding child, so my parents were happy as long as I was happy (playing with bricks and stone and mud and sticks).

My mom left for Saudi for 5 years when I was about 5. My dad practically raised us by himself until I was 11. During those years, all I concentrated on was studies. I did not have much of a life outside of school. I don't think that I had many complaints about that as well. I was too naive to construct any fantasy world about my future. I don't remember being attracted to any guys when I was in India. I remember noticing a couple, though. They had this aura around them which was so mystifying yet so attractive. Oh yeah, I think this is a good time to say that what I find attractive doesn't necessarily complement with another female's idea of 'attractiveness'! Oh yeah, I never spoke to these guys...but I had often found them peeking at me (in the bus stop, in church - another incentive to go to school and church, eh). I still didn't have recurring dreams about a prince in shining armor or a 'happily ever after' theme!

After I came to America, after being exposed to anything and everything that you can possibly imagine..you would think that I'd have a 'dream' or a 'fantasy' about a future. I don't. It surprises me that I'm quite apathetic about something that most girls have figured out when they were 4 years old. Yes, I do have expectations about a guy that I end up with. But I have never thought (expected) much about the 'family' deal even though I do like to have a family one day. I haven't thought about how many children I want. I haven't thought about where I want to live. Heck, I haven't given my wedding day much of a thought.

I wonder if it's an anomaly to not give my future much of a thought. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. That's my train of thought about anything and everything that has to do with the future. I don't think that you will find another soul who is so confused as I am. If you ask me why I'm doing what I'm doing, I'll just give you a blank look and respond 'I have no idea!' Is this just a phase?

I strongly feel that I like being (and want to be) alone. Is it because the right guy hasn't showed up yet? :D Benefit of doubt...eh!!!

Monday, April 21, 2008

And then there was light.................

It all started around 10.30 am as I was semi paying attention in class and semi studying for an exam that was to start in an hour. The teacher puts a problem on the board, looks at me, and calls me by my name and asked me for the answer. HE CALLED ME BY MY NAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My teacher knows my name!!!!! Ok, I'm not surprised that he asked me for the answer. I was surprised that he actually knew my name. He doesn't call ANYONE ELSE by their name and it is the first time in 4 months that he has called anyone by name and it was me. He kept on looking at me every time he asked a question. This is what you get if you stop by a teacher's office whenever you like and ask him questions and sit around and chat!! *Shudder* May be I can get a recommendation from him!!

I studied for the exam as much as I could (I should add that I did slack off and procrastinate and could have done better). I was confident about some of the answers. There were definitely some that made me sit back, fold my arms, and stare at space for a few minutes. I just want to get a B on that test and I might just be in heaven!! As I was walking out, the teacher smiles and asks, 'the test was easy for you, eh?' I was like, ' oh yeah'! It would have been definitely easy if I had realized my damn priorities!

With a heavy mind, I got in to the car. I was definitely disappointed at myself. As an attempt to cheer myself up, I rolled the windows down and played this Indian song with wicked beats! The next thing I know is that this guy (driver) who was in the car infront of me, put his hand up and raised his index finger. Then he bobbed his head. THEN he adjusted his rearview mirror to look at me. I couldn't stop laughing!! He was definitely Indian. His license plate had the logo of my school as well. We both turned into the highway and he recklessly got infront of a truck and sped off. After a minute or so, he got into the slow lane. Scared that I might follow him (At times, I can't control my curiosity), I got into the right most lane to get into the freeway. I kept on laughing and wondering to myself who he could be. Wonder why he did what he did. Hey, at least he didn't show me the middle finger. Anyway, I thank the dude from the bottom of my heart for making my day! May God bless him abundantly.

I got home and decided to check out what was on tv. It was some boring movie. Anyhow, I went to my room. I unhooked the button of my jeans. The jeans zipper WAS OPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know when that happened. I don't know how that happened!!!!!! May be I just forgot to zip after I used the bathroom right before the exam. I cannot believe that I walked around downtown and the train station and in the train with the damn zipper OPEN!!! Thank God that I get over stuff pretty easy.

I wonder if my day could get any worse! Well, it's me that were talking about..anything is possible. What's next? Someone calls me and tells me that he loves me and that he wants to marry me? Trust me..if that happens today, I really wouldn't be taken back. All kind of odd things are happening. Yeah, hell is freezing over!!!

Sunday, April 20, 2008

My Country vs. My Country

*The intention of this post is not to degrade India or the United States of America. These are purely my personal opinions and have developed through my experiences. Opinions are like a$$h@le$, everyone has them.*

Which country do you like better: India or America?

I've been asked this particular question a plethora of times that I feel like I should carry around a notecard explaining my stand to present it to the enquirer. To tell you the truth, I can't pick one country over the other. Both country has its pros and cons. I have a special inclination toward India because I was born there and it's my mother country. I have a special inclination toward America because it molded me into the being that I am today. I will try to list the cons and pros of each countries...but I'll never be able to pick one over the other! Both are equally bad! Well..may be I should say that both are equally good! :D

India (pros)

The rich culture, morals, and values that India stand for is mindblowing. It is a beautiful country filled with beautiful people. I doubt that the sense of family and togetherness can be seen anywhere else. The people are extremely intelligent and educated as well. You can see the entire world in India alone. The history and the past of India is unique and it is what makes the country so beautiful. Your neighbors and more or less like your family. We are very social beings who help each other out during troubled times. The authentic food is beyond delicious. Indians are extremely hospitable. It is where family is. It is where friends are. It is where my roots are. It is where I can find myself.

America (pros)

Obviously, it is the land of opportunities. I learned so much about so many things after coming to America. I was able to get a new perspective (may be became a bit liberal, which is very different from the right conservative views in India) after coming here. You can be anything that you want to be at any age. You are taught to be independent and responsible at a very young age. You are encouraged to be yourself and be proud of it too. You are presented with anything and everything...and if you use those resources well, you can succeed beyond your imagniation. If you want to get something done, you can have it done in the shortest time possible. If you are a citizen, you can enter certain countries without a visa.

India (cons)

It goes without saying that India's political infrastructure may be one of the most corrupted in the world. Politicians don't give a damn about the people. People can't rely on the authorities. The riots between political parties is so unbearable that I am forced to think of murdering some politicians. It takes forever to get something done. You have to bribe everyone from the peon to the head of the management to get a paperwork done. The administrators who are supposed to work for the people, spend the people's money for their own benefit..hence, the people end up getting screwed over and continue to live in the most pathetic of lifestyle. It's heart breaking to watch the riots between people of different religious beliefs. The climate is unbearable.

America (cons)

The fact that everything is available to everyone without much restriction is definitely a drawback. Family, relationships, togetherness, etc. are not given much importance. It is a very individualistic society. You can get very caught up in the fast paced life that you might tend to forget about family commitments - there seems to be no time to do much of leisurely activities espeically if you have a family. What you make here, you spend here! Americans (in some 'conservative' areas) have become xenophobic. You have a long lasting relationship with your mortgage and credit card companies.


Every country has its pros and cons. That doesn't mean that one is better than the other. Evaluating a country is purely subjective and it varies from one individual to another. I love India. I love America. Don't ask me which one I like the best. Don't ask me which one I prefer. Don't ask me to choose. I can't and I won't!

Random: My dream is to go back to India one day and establish a setting to help the needy (something in the medical field - may be build a hospital or something). I actually want to travel the world! I wonder if the latter will ever come true!! *Sigh*

Friday, April 18, 2008

The people that add flavor to my life..

Usually, I have issues with admitting my feelings. But today, I am not holding it back. I must announce to the entire world that I have the best friends in the entire universe and I love them to death. They have helped me so much during the past four months. They've been so understanding and patient with me.

Shakespeare nailed it: (From Sonnett 30)
But if I think of you while I am in this state of sadness, dear friend,.
All my losses are compensated for and my sorrow ends.


In the past few days, I realized how much my friends mean to me. I want to share how amazing they are...because...they just are!! :D They have inspired and motivated me so much. They have more faith in me than I have in myself.

A.M. - The one who is extremely patient with me. He is one guy who makes himself available whenever I 'want' and 'need' him to. I feel extremely comfortable around him. Someone to go to when you want to have a sensible and long conversation. I can call him at any odd hours and he probably won't pick up. He'll call back and I'll make him feel guilty. The apologies that I get from is infinite! He's so genuine! He's an absolute gentleman with hazel eyes. He's never gotten annoyed at me even though I've given him more than enough reasons to do so. He's the only friend that I tend to be too stubborn around, but he has always kept his cool.........so far.

A.C. - The only person on earth who thinks exactly like me, who acts exactly like me, and even talks like me. I've known her for almost 5 years and our relationship is stronger as days go by. I can be a complete idiot around her and she probably will do the same. We check out this particular guy every tuesdays and thursdays and we are definitely not discreet. I think he's getting scared of us. It scares me at times to see how similar we are.

C.L-N. - My Vietnamese sister. She and I can relate to each other regardless of our differences in views. She has so much faith in me and is the perfect source of motivation and inspiration. One of the most hardworking people that I know and smart too.

D.G. - Someone that I can't delineate in a few words. A guy that deviates from the stereotypical guy image. Someone who's a philanthropist who is always ready to help. He's one guy that I can't figure out. He has an integral role in my sanity. He has influenced me in a plethora of ways that I dedicate all my optimism to him and him alone. I respect him so much that I can't even call him by his name.

S.J. - A friend who is not like an elder brother, but IS an elder brother. The one who watches out for me. The one who is more than willing to beat someone up for me. The one who is always there for me when I'm in need. The one who respects my opinions and tolerates me.

S.T- A friend who advises like a mother. A friend who loves me like a sister. A friend who scolds me like a brother. A friend who cheers me up like A FRIEND. She's all-in-one. A sensible human being who is very intelligent who gives me a new perspective on every issue that I bring on to the table. An individual who's been there for me selflessly.


Every single one of them is unique in his or her own way. They all have one thing in common, they are all my friends. None of them know each other (except S.T. and S.J. - they communicate via orkut). I like it that way as well. Having mutual friends can cause dramas and melodramas. Haha. Me and my weird 'mis'conceptions.

I love my friends. They are an asset to my wonderful life. I'm extremely thankful for them.